.  What My Genetic Father Taught Me (My genetic father Not my loving stepdad Mr Lombardi.) . My genetic father was the de facto head of his friend group, He was the Alpha Male of his circle. He was the one all the other local men looked up to and wanted to impress. He was loved by all the local women he met... He was feared and semi-worshipped by almost everyone! . - My genetic father taught me these things. - My genetic father taught me why any sensible woman would "choose bear" . He taught me what toxic masculinity was. He taught me rage and violence that has me STILL haunted by nightmares, despite me now being 50 years old. - He taught me all this as a toddler before I could possibly comprehend the horrible things I saw. My first ever memory is of him hitting my mum. - He is the reason that as a straight man - I struggled with self-loathing because I am a straight man. He taught me what monsters we men really are. - Because my frightened terrified toddler self at the bac

. ..At the end of the day,  I am ONLY ever responsible for MY actions, not other people's - It is not my job or concern if the friends in my life are good people or not! - It is only MY job and concern to make sure I am a good person at any and all cost - In spite of anyone else's decisions. - I only OWN ME! - I have no interest in 'owning' anyone else! .

! RE: FEMALE FREINDS: (A certain male heterosexual perspective) - - IF she never liked you that way and never will! (Note: My only ever ask anyone out "Once Only" GOLDEN RULE to stop any risk of you ever accidentally being a delusional scary creep! - If she ever changes her mind, then it's HER turn to ask YOU out!) Accept the friendship and move on! Friendship is worth something to! . PLUS - Remember for every platonic female friend you have - You gain social access to 3 single friends of theirs and your female platonic friend might (if she is a real friend) tell each of them how great you are! Because she wants all her friends to meet good people and be happy. And you should return the favour with your male friends IF she is looking! Because YOU, if you are a decent human being should also want all YOUR friends to meet good people and be happy. . In my opinion, it is far more important to be a good fellow human FIRST And only your sexuality and gender SECOND! ! Your