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Thanks. The thing is, I didn't just say you're not ugly and I'm not dating you. I also told you how to change so you will actually get what you actually want - a functioning loving relationship.
You are focusing on your looks when they genuinely aren't the problem. My matches page is full of men with an equal level of attractiveness to you and I regularly reach out to the ones that interest me based on their personality.
I am also an artist who sells my art. Using your analogy of selling a painting, if I have a painting in a gallery that somebody knocks off the wall and breaks, I don't stick it in a dark corner of the gallery with a sign saying somebody broke this painting now it is ugly and unrepairable so nobody will buy it. I pick the painting up, mend what I can, rework what can't be mended and then I reframe it and rehang it with an artist's statement explaining how it was restored. 100s of people will look at it. Some will hate it, most will forget it, but, the right somebody will eventually come along and buy it.
Your profile is like the broken painting. It shows how emotionally broken you are. The introduction is great - it's why I read the rest of the profile, but, when I got to your rant about being a "subhuman being", I switched from interested to concerned. In order to find someone who appreciates you for the beauty you have underneath, you need to take some time to mend yourself.
In the mean time, if you're going to use the app until July 2026:
- Get rid of all the self depreciation and angst from your profile. Nobody wants a renovation project;
- Get rid of the stuff about your bad marriage. Nobody wants to be someone's rebound;
- Concentrate on the good things and the sweet things that you want to do together. Where you've done this, your profile is great;
- Get some professional photos taken. You're genuinely just a normal looking man. A professional photo will make you look your best, make you feel better about how you look and show people that you care about how you look;
- Send out lots of messages and make every single one interesting and relevant.
Internet dating is difficult. It's not just you. Out of every 100 people I message, I might get replies from 7 and only one of them will be cautiously interested. That reply from the one interested person is worth the effort.
If you don't make time to heal yourself and you just leave your profile as it is, all you will ever get is "You are not ugly - but I still ain't ever dating you myself in a million years" messages.
Invest time and effort in yourself and you will find love.
Good luck.
It's your choice.
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Title:
“Princess Trite Lousia"
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Composite Image Digital Art:
Taken from a screenshot of an eHarmony dating app conversation with a real person without their permission.
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And, Yes,
I AM trying to get myself into trouble!
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I read your complete profile. You need to know that you aren't ugly. I don't know who told you that, but, they're wrong.
You're just looking for love in the wrong place. Dating apps are not good places for people when they are fragile and broken. They're brutal.
You need to heal yourself first. Let go of the things that have hurt you in your past and learn to love yourself again.
Make time for yourself. Reunite with old friends. Make new friends. Go back to a hobby you once loved. Start a new hobby. Volunteer. Fill your time with things that make you feel good about yourself.
Don't let life haunt you, find your confidence and you will find the love you need.
Good luck.
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I read your complete profile. You need to know that you aren't ugly. I don't know who told you that, but, they're wrong.
You're just looking for love in the wrong place. Dating apps are not good places for people when they are fragile and broken. They're brutal.
You need to heal yourself first. Let go of the things that have hurt you in your past and learn to love yourself again.
Make time for yourself. Reunite with old friends. Make new friends. Go back to a hobby you once loved. Start a new hobby. Volunteer. Fill your time with things that make you feel good about yourself.
Don't let life haunt you, find your confidence and you will find the love you need.
Good luck.
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Possibly the nicest "You are not ugly - but I still ain't ever dating you myself in a million years" Message I have ever gotten (so far).
- I am an artist who sells my art.
There is a huge diffence between looking at a picture in a gallery and saying its "Ok"
Vs
Actually putting your hand in your own purse, paying real money for it and then placing it on your own living room wall, for all to proudly see.
- I'm sure you mean well,
And you took time out to try and do a nice thing,
You are probibally a lovely person.
but talk is cheap.
Unfortunately real life experience and what actually happens has a far bigger weight in evidence than the patronising, trite, pat on the head, comments people so casually say.
But you are probibally correct about the dating apps.
My Sub for this site ends on the 17th of July 2026 -
So I am stuck with it.
And if I am stuck paying for it, then I might as well use it.
But I will quit it - for good - once this sub ends!
- I am an artist who sells my art.
There is a huge diffence between looking at a picture in a gallery and saying its "Ok"
Vs
Actually putting your hand in your own purse, paying real money for it and then placing it on your own living room wall, for all to proudly see.
- I'm sure you mean well,
And you took time out to try and do a nice thing,
You are probibally a lovely person.
but talk is cheap.
Unfortunately real life experience and what actually happens has a far bigger weight in evidence than the patronising, trite, pat on the head, comments people so casually say.
But you are probibally correct about the dating apps.
My Sub for this site ends on the 17th of July 2026 -
So I am stuck with it.
And if I am stuck paying for it, then I might as well use it.
But I will quit it - for good - once this sub ends!
Thanks. The thing is, I didn't just say you're not ugly and I'm not dating you. I also told you how to change so you will actually get what you actually want - a functioning loving relationship.
You are focusing on your looks when they genuinely aren't the problem. My matches page is full of men with an equal level of attractiveness to you and I regularly reach out to the ones that interest me based on their personality.
I am also an artist who sells my art. Using your analogy of selling a painting, if I have a painting in a gallery that somebody knocks off the wall and breaks, I don't stick it in a dark corner of the gallery with a sign saying somebody broke this painting now it is ugly and unrepairable so nobody will buy it. I pick the painting up, mend what I can, rework what can't be mended and then I reframe it and rehang it with an artist's statement explaining how it was restored. 100s of people will look at it. Some will hate it, most will forget it, but, the right somebody will eventually come along and buy it.
Your profile is like the broken painting. It shows how emotionally broken you are. The introduction is great - it's why I read the rest of the profile, but, when I got to your rant about being a "subhuman being", I switched from interested to concerned. In order to find someone who appreciates you for the beauty you have underneath, you need to take some time to mend yourself.
In the mean time, if you're going to use the app until July 2026:
- Get rid of all the self depreciation and angst from your profile. Nobody wants a renovation project;
- Get rid of the stuff about your bad marriage. Nobody wants to be someone's rebound;
- Concentrate on the good things and the sweet things that you want to do together. Where you've done this, your profile is great;
- Get some professional photos taken. You're genuinely just a normal looking man. A professional photo will make you look your best, make you feel better about how you look and show people that you care about how you look;
- Send out lots of messages and make every single one interesting and relevant.
Internet dating is difficult. It's not just you. Out of every 100 people I message, I might get replies from 7 and only one of them will be cautiously interested. That reply from the one interested person is worth the effort.
If you don't make time to heal yourself and you just leave your profile as it is, all you will ever get is "You are not ugly - but I still ain't ever dating you myself in a million years" messages.
Invest time and effort in yourself and you will find love.
Good luck.
It's your choice.
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YES - It IS my choice! - I choose the "Other way" - I choose to break rather then bend! - I choose to suffer rather than compromise! - I choose dissent over compliance! - I choose to be an arse rather then "resonable" - I choose to fail as "Me" rather then suceed as "something else!" - AND - I choose to cut 'n paste this test as a screen-shot to make some dark negitive art out of it!
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