In my divorce, I gave my ex-wife the whole house.

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In my divorce, 

I gave my ex-wife the whole house.

(In the suburbs semidetached 3 bedrooms with gardens.)

Why?
Because with 2 kids, among other reasons, it was the morally correct thing to do.

This has left me forever trapped and 50 in “bedsit land”
I am not expecting gratitude, but I am getting tired of her blinkered blasé self-entitlement.

I did the right thing for the right reason, but I could have easily insisted on “Legal Fairness” and looked out for my own interest instead!

However, she can't seem to grasp that concept.
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Now she is complaining about the various costs of the separation.
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My Response:
"Please understand that it seems a bit inappropriate for you to expect any sympathy from me. - because compared to you I have lost pretty much everything.
Due to me "doing what is morally right" instead of seeking "legally defined fairness"
A choice that (although still morally right) has cost me far more than just mere money - but also a lifetime of loneliness.
As no woman in her right mind wants a 50-year-old man with zero future that can offer absolutely no financial security.
Basically, from a romantic standpoint, I am worth Nothing!
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You are a smart person.
You must, on some intellectual level realize what the real cost for that ethical stance will be for me.
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So please - have enough humanity, respect, and simple common sense not to expect any sympathy.
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You will, if you choose, get to love again
- I won't!"

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The lesson here might be.

Don’t ever try to do the “right thing.”

But I would never listen to such a lesson.

That is simply not who I am!

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REMEMBER!
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"IF" doing "The right thing" at any and all costs were easy...
...Then Everyone would do it!
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But it is not easy
So <shrug> most people do not do it!
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And THIS the very simply the true reason
Why the world IS as bad -
- As it IS!
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